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My work is rooted in helping clients understand the interconnection of the mind, body and spirit and how when we hold more understanding, we have more control of our lives
Our body and nervous system holds our entire life experience
Whatever we have had to suppress and what we have not processed in life, holds itself in the body and shows up in the physical through:
- illness
-zoning out / disconnect
-addiction
-lack of ability to focus
-emotional reactivity
-chronic pain / tension
-porn addiction / chronic masturbation and more
Connecting with our body and nervous system helps us understand what our body is holding and how to best support it in feeling safe to process it and release it
Working 1:1 with clients we look at childhood and pair it into how our body responds to stimuli today
Some of us shut down more
Some of us disconnect more
Some of us fight more
Some of us run away more
Everything is interconnected
A main piece of my 1:1 work with men is working with the nervous system
When a man is living with what is called a, dysregulated nervous system, these show up:
-emotional reactivity vs responding
-more anger / explosive anger
-need for chronic masturbation for calming
-more overestimation from noises, etc
-more reaching for calming agents which may be drinking more often, eating more, etc
-addictions and need for spaces for disconnect
-more desire to detach and hide
Working with our nervous system gives us back control, presence, response, empowerment and clarity.
If you would like to explore 1:1 work together in this space, message me to learn more of how I can support you.
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This one practice and built skill will change everything in your life
Becoming the observer allows you choice
It opens clarity
It opens connection
It opens a new choice vs the same patterns
It opens control
How are you practicing being the observer today?
What’s new on my VIP page this week? • Foods to support Prostate health • 10 Minute Guided Relaxation Video • An easy exercise for when you don’t want to cum just yet • New Month Reflection Questions • A Fudgy + Healthy Brownie Recipe • Dancing and more 😊 Join the community Link in my bio description!
2023-08-03 16:57:16 +0000 UTC View PostDid you know - I started a 10 minutes or less relaxation / stress release series? ✨ Join me on my VIP page for weekly videos of guided relaxation and stress relief This week ( week 3 ) we incorporate: -breathwork -brain exercises -tapping -stretching and more New + expired subscribers - you can join now for just $5 for the month Over 1500 photos, 200 videos, wellness blogs, guided relaxation, personal audios, recipes and more
2023-08-03 15:57:03 +0000 UTC View Post
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2022-10-20 01:58:36 +0000 UTC View Post
I HAVE NEWS 🤍 This Thursday I am off to New Mexico where I will be traveling / shooting for / gone 3 days with a professional photographer who I have loved his work. Want to travel along behind the scenes and right beside me on my trip to New Mexico? 🤠✨ ✨For $20+ and up -you will be added to the private trip Snapchat where I will be sharing exclusives throughout my travels and the trip :) ✨For $50 and up - you are added to the Snapchat as well as will receive more exclusives just for you from me ✨For $200 and up - all of the above as well as a planned 3 minute custom we both align on :) 🤍 Who’s ready to come along with me?
2022-09-26 23:26:21 +0000 UTC View Post
We were never created for labels and boxes What are you hiding away because it doesn’t fit along with the other label that is? What would happen if you honored all that is there? What happens if you stare the wild in the face? What happens if you let yourself BE - ALL? What does life look like when we step out of the boxes?
2022-08-31 01:39:09 +0000 UTC View PostWill you groove with me? 🧡 Do you have favorite songs you love to put on to dance to? This is a fun one for me :) I love to dance and to make little moments of fun in the day :) Here is 1:43 out of the 5:30 full strip dance video - full of smiles, grooving and stripping down :) ✨Tip just $7 for the full video to be sent to your inbox 🧡
2022-08-25 18:57:11 +0000 UTC View Post
Hi 💛 I just wanted to say - thank you. Thank you for every single one of you here. Know - I care deeply and that you have someone rooting for you in your corner in life :) You are a gift to this world Never forget it 💛
2022-08-18 22:17:31 +0000 UTC View Post
Our bodies were not created to be judged, compared or placed in a value system. Your body is PERFECT in - YOU Every line. Every scar. Every fold. Every color. After starting this work years back - I found myself struggling in seeing my body in the way I do now as between the continued comments of what others found perfect and appealing in me to them and then the comparison to others - it was hard to stay connected in the knowing that - my body just - is. Perfect in more than just bouncy breasts, my long legs or my hips but - all of it. Allowing myself to look in the mirror each day with my naked body and say - your value isn’t what others see or share about you - you are beautiful - just as you are. I love this work because it is an opening for everyone. A continued opening for me to connect with my body in more than just what others want or see as “beautiful” This is - mine and I want to remind that for everyone else in their bodies too. No one else deserves or can place value on the perfection of what your body is. There is no - better in another. There is perfectly - you 💛
2022-08-08 14:34:06 +0000 UTC View PostStrip + Loving You ♥️ As I look you in the eyes and slowly unwrap my skirt - you taste my desire You feel my love. Watch me in this clip as I make love to you and my body from afar - in the way we lock eyes, in the way I touch my body and undress - in the way I move - love in every moment Are you ready to taste my wild? Are you ready to taste my love?
2022-08-01 22:54:17 +0000 UTC View PostTouching in the Sunlight ☀️ The morning sunlight pours through the window as I sit with my naked body soaking it all in Watch as my fingertips connect with my body and the sunlight all at once Building my touch and turn on with the morning sun The sunlight as it veils all of my lips The way it shapes over my body Come - watch me 6 minutes of LOVE
2022-08-01 22:41:54 +0000 UTC View PostSensual Naked Stretch 🪞✨ Join me in watching me from behind me as I am on my knees in prayer pose - I slowly stroke stretch and connect with my naked body to the music in this 2 minute clip
2022-08-01 22:26:33 +0000 UTC View Post
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2022-08-01 17:17:18 +0000 UTC View Post
Have you ever had your body worshiped by a lover? ❤️ This - is medicine. If yes - ~ How did it feel? ~ Did any emotions come through during your time of fully receiving this worship?
2022-07-25 14:36:38 +0000 UTC View PostConnecting with your Cock 🤍✨ Join me in my FREE introduction video for my new cock connection video bundle where I talk about the beauty and importance in spending time in connection with your cock! ~ Have you ever spent time honoring your own cock? Worshiping it? ~ Have you ever gazed at its perfection as it is? Without the sexual aspect - have you or do you spend time loving and showing your cock love? With touch or even without? Thanking it? Your cock is desiring of deep connection. The openings within every aspect of life just from this one practice of spending more time with your cock in pure presence. In this video I share about - 1. Why cock connection? 2. The physical benefits of cock connection 3. The cock - heart connection 3. Reflections of our own journey with our cock And more!
2022-07-18 20:25:46 +0000 UTC View Post
FREE 4 minute guided audio exercise is up on my VIP page for subscribers 🤍 💭Did you know SOUND is a direct pathway to opening ourselves and our bodies deeper into pleasure? Allowing those moans during sex or self pleasure vs quieting ourselves or shaming what desires to be released. In my new exercise - we are using our breath in combination with the releasing of sounds to aid relaxation as well as build sexual energy in your body! Notice in day to day life when you are holding back in releasing a sound that is desired Whether a moan, groan, word, sigh - simply inviting ourselves to remember our sounds are human and our sounds - are openings. When we pair intentional breath and focus with this letting go of sounds - MAGIC builds within🤍 Join me! Onlyfans.com/missharperlane
2022-06-15 22:36:47 +0000 UTC View Post
My care and deepest intention for all of my work as a creator and support guide / coach is to create a space for you to dive further into connection with - everything 💛 With - Life. Yourself and your soul. Your relationships. The world around you. Your feelings. Your body. Your touch. Your energy. Everything - Deeper. 💭In our world today - we have normalized disconnection and distraction. ~ It is normalized for us to choose to disconnect. Rushing through touch with our bodies or sex disconnected instead of feeling the rush in the full opening and heightening of each piece in presence. ~ It is normalized where when we feel worry, fear, anxiety boredom, etc - we disconnect. Our heads in our screen. Our touch, disconnected from ourselves. Ourselves choosing - distraction. I lived disconnected this way for many years and finally said - no more. I found that when I leaned into presence as well as to honoring the depth of me and life instead of disconnection or distraction - there was more JOY that also came to be felt. I felt more ME than ever before. My range brought me - freedom. The greatest gifts are hearing feedback from clients in working with me in this way. To hearing how much more they’re feeling connected to themselves. How much more they’re enjoying connecting with the small aspects that were missed in life before Hearing them embracing, honoring and loving - is everything 🤍 To this beautiful life of DEPTH.
2022-06-02 16:14:38 +0000 UTC View PostOur minds race to get to the ending but the heart opening bliss is waiting in - each moment. Each moment- carries gold. When we slow down and feel the layers within the the present moment - we feel the true meaning of - bliss. I invite you- take some time throughout the day and slow down with some gentle touches and connection with your body. 💭How does it feel to breathe, slow? Touch, slow? It may iginite feelings within you and in this - I also invite you to say hello to them vs push them away. In our slowing down - we greet new pieces of ourselves. Of moments. Of, life. 👉🏻Join me on my VIP page for written, video and audio exercises to connect deeper with the self, the moment and with LIFE 🤍
2022-05-11 21:49:52 +0000 UTC View PostDancing is one of my favorite ways to bring energy into the body! ✨What are your favorite songs to groove to? ✨ Join me on my VIP page for this full length dance video sent right to your inbox as well as much more dancing together 💛✨
2022-04-29 18:20:02 +0000 UTC View Post
What is your relationship with LIFE? ✨💭 Our relationship with life reflects into every other relationship we have - with sex, with any partners / romantic relationships, with money, with work, with responsibility, communication and more. Reflecting on this one question can offer deep wisdom into us. • Do we often choose to disconnect in life? • Do we more often lead ourselves or follow in life? • Do you often rush or focus on an end or the destination vs enjoying the moment? • Do we choose to shut down when something out of our control arises? • Do we blame life for what’s here today? • Do we speak aloud what we want for life or keep it to ourselves? • Do we try to always know or have control? • Do we feel life and use our senses in the day? • Do we spend time in presence with life or are we often in our mind or on the go? • Do we always try to please another vs balance? • Do we tend to live in our minds and try to use logic more than feeling in life? We must know - 👉🏻The greatest sex as well as the greatest relationships, communication, LIFE - comes when there is COMMUNICATION. FLOW. AUTHENTICITY. PRESENCE. FEELING / GOING DEEPER INTO THE SENSES. BALANCE OF OFFERING AND ALLOWING, RECEIVING. When we want to understand, grow or improve an area of our lives - we can reflect and know that everything is related. I often get questions - “ How do I have even better sex?” - “How do I give my partner the best orgasm?” - “ How can I be the best lover in sex?” - “Why do I struggle to cum during sex?” - “ Why can’t I get out of my head during sex?” - “ How can I get out of my head during sex?” - “ How do I build confidence in the bedroom?” When I work 1:1 and in group setting for my intimacy work - we approach these questions and desired from a LIFE and INDIVIDUAL level as, everything is connected. What is our relationship with LIFE? 💭✨ For more information on my 1:1 offerings and coaching - message me here with the first line as - 1:1 💛💛💛
2022-04-26 15:55:05 +0000 UTC View Post
We are not separate from Nature We breathe and live, as one May we love our Earth, every day 🌎
2022-04-23 02:44:35 +0000 UTC View Post🚨 NEW VIDEO - Performance Anxiety Performance anxiety is, natural and, human. Whether it comes up within communicating, expressing, dating, during sex or physical intimacy or whatever else - it is our body and mind simply trying to keep us SAFE and PROTECT US. When it comes up - it is trying to protect us from rejection, not having that clarity and security of knowing, messing up or “failing”, not being as good as another, etc. Every single one of us can relate feeling PA, even if it is not acknowledged or spoken allowed. 🚨This video goes into : 1. Things to remember about PA 2. Why PA happens 3. A few things that may be encouraging heightened PA for physical intimacy More to come ~ ♥️ What was your take away from this video? I would love your feedback in the comments in a message or in the comments below 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
2022-04-22 18:09:38 +0000 UTC View Post🚨 NEW VIDEO 🚨 Why doing THIS before a date, having sex or having an important conversation is beneficial - ~ SOLO PRACTICE ~ -What does that mean? -Why is it beneficial? This video goes into 2 reasons why solo practices are key before having sex, going on a date and more 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 #1. They guide us out of the MIND ✨ The mind often leads our experiences for us, even without us consciously knowing. The mind is not the truth. It is our projections, our worries, our past, our patterns, our “keep you safe” area. The - “ Maybe I should be doing, saying or being more of this?” “Do I look ok?” “Is she enjoying this?” “Maybe I should do this position to wow her?” - This is the MIND. When we are in the mind, we miss out on the present and full experience #2. They allow us back into the body, the present moment and out of the distraction ✨ The present moment is where calm rests and the mind, is not leading. It is feeling. It is the place of deepest aliveness of experience waiting. It allows us to feel, see, smell, taste and enjoy, that much more of the experience vs if the mind is leading and keeping us distracted Solo self practices can look like - - breathing practices -meditation practices -movement or dance practices -intentional self massage and connection And more Part #2 to come ♥️
2022-04-20 21:26:38 +0000 UTC View Post
✨4 tips to breathing for relaxation ✨ 👉🏻1. Breathe through your NOSE vs your mouth. Breathing through the nose helps bring our nervous system into the parasympathetic state which is the state of calm where as mouth breathing, activates and energizes the mind and body. 👉🏻2. Place your tongue at the roof of your mouth when you’re breathing! This one tip can bring so many benefits! -It helps keep the body directed toward the parasympathetic / calm state as the tongue pressing the roof is like a button to, slow down. Come down. - It helps with brain clarity as it forces the body to nose breathe vs mouth breathe. Mouth breathing can create feelings of anxiety, activation, brain fog / less clarity due to the nitric oxide and oxygen shifts in the brain. 🚨(If you are ever angry or over stimulated in anxiety or by a situation, bringing the tongue to your roof and breathing very slowly and deeply into the body and belly can be so helpful! ) 👉🏻3. Choosing Deep BELLY and DIAPHRAGM breathing vs CHEST Breathing When we choose to breathe slowly and with presence, into our diaphragm and belly vs the chest, it helps the body signal the message to come back to calm. ** You can use your hands to follow the breath, placing one on the belly and one on the chest and guiding the breath into the belly and up. This practice can help feel the presence with the breath in the body and helps belly breathing become more natural over time. 👉🏻4. Focusing on SLOW Breathing vs Fast Breathing Remembering in moments of desiring more calm, slowing down the breath alone can do wonders. You can use counting of breaths, visualization with the breath for slowing it down or whatever helps bring awareness back to slow. If you try these tips, let me know what you think ♥️
2022-04-01 16:08:31 +0000 UTC View Post🕯✨Why explore our body? ✨🕯 This 1 practice of taking time out just to explore the body. It’s powerful and will change your life. To begin to learn and know the body on a deeper level only benefits us for every aspect of our lives. How? It helps - • In becoming more connected to ourselves • In becoming more confident in our body • In learning more about our boundaries, likes, dislikes and desires • It helps us learn how to spark pleasure for ourselves in a variety of playful ways • In building an understanding of our pleasure • For our own understanding of our body’s messages, places holding tension, needs etc • For our pleasure in our relationships 🌹Take time alone, where you won’t be bothered and where you feel safe and at ease to be able to drop in to explore 🌹Put on a song / music that allows you to feel sexual yet, relaxed. 🌹You can wear a blindfold or choose not to. The blindfold just helps us tune out more distraction and easier place of focus within. 🌹 Guide your hands as SLOWLY and as presently as you can. The slower you go, the more you feel. 🌹 Guide your breath with your fingertips and your touch. Notice what arises using different touches. Take notice- 💭What touches call you deeper? 💭What touches ignited you right away? 💭What areas did you find sparked pleasure that you didn’t know you enjoyed 💭What does this practice of exploring bring out for you? What do you notice most during the exercise? Is it easy? Difficult? ** Know, emotions may come up as you begin to explore your body with full presence and a new sense of touch. Allow the emotions to flow. They are simply moving through and sharing what’s been stored beneath. Let me know how it goes ♥️✨ Cheers to our exploration
2022-03-31 22:40:31 +0000 UTC View Post♥️ Massaging the cock ♥️ (( $5 For the Full 13 Minute Video )) Did you know massaging your cock has its benefits? 👉🏻 Tip just $5 on the post here for the full 13 minute video! ♥️ I will send it to your inbox! 👉🏻Cock massage helps in stress reduction and relief 👉🏻It also helps with our body’s circulation and much more Intentionally taking time out of the day to connect with your cock simply to massage it, gently stretch and touch it with love as well as bring presence to it is all good for our physical health, mental health and soul health. ✨In this video I talk about : - how massage of the cock benefits us - how massage strengthens hard ons - the importance of using lube for massage - creating an environment for your cock massage - a check in - check list for before your massage and more 👉🏻For the FULL LENGTH 13 minute video including the beginning technique / practice and guided full walk through of cock massage together : Who is ready to massage their cocks?
2022-03-29 21:09:22 +0000 UTC View Post