Someone thought it would be a good idea to leave a comment l..
Added 2025-01-18 06:40:50 +0000 UTCSomeone thought it would be a good idea to leave a comment like this on my post asking about how subscribers feel about nipple-play-focused scenes
I think this is a teachable moment
(1) This is not a nice or respectful way to speak to anyone, and anyone speaking disrespectfully on my page—to me or to anyone else—will have their ability to speak restricted. If you want to be unrestricted, you have to pay a tip of $25 to show that you’re sincere about learning your manners
(2) I specifically want to call out the homophobia and gender policing of this comment. This is precisely the type of masculinity that is rightfully labeled “toxic,” and it is men who are toxic masculinity’s first victims. Just think: this man is announcing to the world that he thinks it is “gay” to … [checks notes]… have a woman stimulate a highly innervated and erogenous zone? This internalized vision of what a “proper” straight man would do keeps this commenter from learning about his own body and things that might feel good, and to attempt to insult men like me who love women and who show it freely and without restraint in my non-physical and physical interactions with them alike
I want to encourage all of you to be free to enjoy your bodies and your sexuality—even, yes, “gay shit” if you’re a man who’s attracted to men!—without fear or shame. If people judge you for not abiding by some arbitrary standard of “appropriate” gendered behavior, you should feel sorry for the narrow world they inhabit. Don’t crush yourself to fit into it.
