What you see at first Presentation is everything . Sexy or casual , you have to present yourself well. Yes , we know why weβre hitting the swing club or showing up at the hotel . Thereβs no mystery as to what the overall reason is for getting together . But effort is still required . Sweats and a T shirt may be more comfortable but I like a guy in a suit . Show me your best self . For my part , I can get into the most crazy lingerie contraptions for fun time but as Iβve mentioned many times before - on the outside and what you see at first is something very different