**Dynamics** **Any tips for finding or starting your own dyn..

**Dynamics**
**Any tips for finding or starting your own dynamic?**
SD - Search in the right places. It's going to be easier to find a Dom or sub on sites which cater for kinky people over traditional dating apps. Put yourself out there. Go to a kink event or munch and get talking to people.

MV - Finding the right person who has the right level of experience for you both to enjoy and grow. Go to a social or a munch ASAP and find some new people.

**How did you approach the conversation of being ethically non-monogamous? How did your partner react?**
SD - Sophia is the one who brought it up with me! We were monogamous for a long time but it was something we discussed early on in our relationship so it didn’t come as a surprise. The pandemic and a puppy got in the way but once we decided to open the relationship up it all happened fairly naturally.

**What dynamics do you have? What’s the best thing about them? What’s the most challenging?**
SD - We don’t have many ongoing dynamics as we struggle to find the right people.
We play with Mr V together as a 3 and Sophia also sees him on her own. The best thing about that dynamic is that Mr V is a great guy who we can trust. Our play sessions are very fun but we also get on really well outside of the bedroom which is really important to us.
We also have an ongoing dynamic with another couple who Sophia service subs to. They are both dominant so she serves all 3 of us and it works well.
The most challenging thing about the dynamics is finding dates we are all free!

**I played around with some BDSM in my single life with some women. But I don’t think I can transfer that to my married life. Any thoughts or suggestions?**
SD - I would suggest that you introduce the idea slowly. Communication is key. If your partner has absolutely no desire to do anything kinky it will be a tricky one but if you don't tell them what you need then you are never going to get it. There is normally a middle ground so hopefully you can find what that is. With some time you may discover some new things you both enjoy.

MV - I would suggest opening communication slowly about the things you might like. Feeling safe together is key to trying something new.